By: Deb Miskell
It is hard to imagine that covering more in our expose everything society can create eroticism. The idea of more modest dress equaling sexy appearance sounds counter intuitive because of how Western society views sex and sexuality. It is, however, something that is quite true. Sex and sexuality are in many ways a dramatic pleasure play wherein the participants are both actors and audience.
In sacred sexuality, this is something that is highly important because the acts of sex reaffirm spiritual truths. That, however, is a different subject for a different day. In this post, we are looking at ‘old fashioned’ sex of sex’s sake. One may wonder at the popularity of peep shows and pin up erotica when there is such a powerful emphasis upon the nude form. The reason why such things that feature women scantily clad are more popular then full on nudity is because it leaves a measure of the woman’s appearance to the imagination of the viewer.
The veil is, for many people in the Western world, something exotic and novel. They are unfamiliar with this article of clothing and this taste of the exotic can already whet the palate for the erotic. A casual survey of a major sex fetish discussion board shows that there is a strong sub group of people who find the veil enticing. It indicates that the veil can serve a greater purpose then simple covering. It can, in the correct context, be an excellent tool for seduction.
This is not something we who veil should scorn. There is great power in sex and sexuality. Historically, women are known for their sensual strengths. This should be something that we seize and assume control over as women of power. Our choice of whom we allow to see us unveiled is an amazing expression of trust. In the correct circumstances, it is also a powerful expression of our sensuality.
Women have had the capacity to exercise their sexual prowess by way of controlling how they disrobe and how much they expose of themselves for as long as clothing has existed. The concept of including the covering of hair in this context is nothing new. Within the Kama Sutra, there is discussion of how one is to properly undress their sexual partner (addressing the matter primarily from the male perspective, but it does address the question for both genders). In the Perfumed Garden, a similar discussion is held. A continues survey of other traditional texts regarding sexuality, we can find yet more discussions of this same topic. Indeed, even the erotic literature from the past, such as the Decameron, has a focus on this matter.
Modern women who veil should not feel that veiling makes the automatically less erotic. Indeed, it can add to the feminine mystique and when worn with confidence make the wearer exciting to their lover while fully clothed. The trick to harnessing this power goes beyond a sexy strip tease. The true strength of the sexuality aspect comes in the confidence and comfort of the woman wearing the veil. If she is comfortable in herself and what she is wearing, this exudes a subtle draw that encourages admirers. It is perhaps one of the most dramatic forms of beauty being expressed from the inside out.
In conclusion, wear your veil with pride and know that it does not diminish your sexuality. It can only serve to help make you more beautiful.